Anxiety! Who me?

ANXIETY! WHO ME?

Do you worry that something bad is going to happen but you don’t know what?

Do you get uncomfortable in social situations?

Do you feel like life is happening TO you rather than feeling in control of it?

Do you find yourself lying awake at night worried or agitated? 

If you often feel fear, uneasiness and have problems sleeping, you may have an anxiety disorder.

We most often suffer more from what we FEAR than what actually HAPPENS, so it’s important for you to learn how to evaluate what you are thinking. Things always look less fearful when we face them head on vs. running or distracting ourselves into TV, alcohol, food, or work.

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Anxiety or panic attacks can include rapid heart rate, difficulty breathing, racing thoughts, difficulty concentrating, inability to stay still or calm, sweaty palms, insomnia, loss of appetite, tightness in your chest. It can also cause a “fight or flight response” which is a physiological reaction when your brain wants to protect you from danger. It prompts you to run away from the situation or to defend yourself, regardless of how rational that reaction is.

 TREATING ANXIETY

With anxiety disorders, knowledge and understanding are key. The more you understand about your anxiety the more in control you feel. If you are suffering from an anxiety disorder, understanding it, identifying triggers that cause anxiety and learning effective and specific interventions to cope with it as it happens will bring relief from symptoms.

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Becoming more aware of your anxiety, labeling it, and defining what purpose it serves can help you. Additionally, through implementing skills taught and beginning to experience success in managing your anxiety, you should see your symptoms start to dissipate. The goal is to reduce your anxiety to a level where you can cope with it instead of it controlling you.

Anxiety can often be an isolating experience leaving you embarrassed and causing you to avoid activities you would otherwise enjoy. Individuals with anxiety disorders tend to have a need to be in control and feel uncomfortable when they can’t predict or control a situation. These situations are difficult to avoid and it’s impossible to control every aspect of our lives. Anxiety can also cause irrational thoughts or beliefs. Intellectually, you may be aware that they are irrational but the thoughts still FEEL real. Your significant other or family may not understand your anxiety or feel helpless and lost in their attempts to comfort you. This can result in frustration which causes distance in relationships. No one likes to feel like they can’t help their loved one.

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If you live in the Vancouver Washington Area and experience anxiety call Eternal Hope Christian Counseling and Coaching to schedule your appointment and begin your healing! 360-718-8636

WORDS HURT

“Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

Research shows the truth is that words actually have long lasting and profound effects in the development of children and in relationships. Often times we forget that what we say matters. We live in a society that so frequently is filled with words that are negative, discouraging, and judgmental. In relationships, words of anger are fueled by unmet expectations and bring discontentment setting the relationship on the course of destruction.  As parents, words of disappointment and harsh rebuke can shatter a child’s self- esteem and make them feel unworthy of love.  Phrases such as, “Hey stupid”, ‘ What is the matter with you?”, “Can’t you do anything right”, “I hate you”, “You disgust me”, and “Don’t you know how to listen” are spoken to both child and partner alike.  These types of words can create messages of, “I am not worthy to be loved”, “I am worthless and have no value to anyone”, “I can’t do anything right”, that play over and over in person’s thoughts creating a negative self- image. God instructs us in Proverbs 15:1 that “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”  Our God tells us there is a definite difference in the way others respond to soft and harsh words.  Soft words turn away wrath and harsh words stir up anger.  WOW!!!!
Just as words can tear down a person, words can build a person up.  God tells us in Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”  He encourages us to choose our words wisely and to use them to build each up.  We are to use words that help someone want to be a better Christian, stay clean and sober, perform better in a race, score higher on a test, be a better spouse, and teach our children that they are worthy of love and affection.  The words we use can bring healing to soul and body.  Something as simple as the words we choose can help a person heal both emotionally and physically.

Sticks and Stones can break bones.  Broken bones hurt and typically leave visible wounds. Usually time will allow the body to repair and the visible brokenness disappears. Contrary to the poem, words DO hurt and cause internal wounds which cannot be seen.  Healing from these internal wounds, internal brokenness, feelings of unworthiness, feelings of being unlovable and shattered self-esteem is sometimes very difficult.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” cannot be further from the truth.  Words Matter.  My prayer for each of us is that we take a moment and reflect on the message we want to convey and the words we choose to convey it.

May God Bless each of you and may your words be ones of encouragement and love.

Blessings,
Terri