WORDS HURT

“Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”

Research shows the truth is that words actually have long lasting and profound effects in the development of children and in relationships. Often times we forget that what we say matters. We live in a society that so frequently is filled with words that are negative, discouraging, and judgmental. In relationships, words of anger are fueled by unmet expectations and bring discontentment setting the relationship on the course of destruction.  As parents, words of disappointment and harsh rebuke can shatter a child’s self- esteem and make them feel unworthy of love.  Phrases such as, “Hey stupid”, ‘ What is the matter with you?”, “Can’t you do anything right”, “I hate you”, “You disgust me”, and “Don’t you know how to listen” are spoken to both child and partner alike.  These types of words can create messages of, “I am not worthy to be loved”, “I am worthless and have no value to anyone”, “I can’t do anything right”, that play over and over in person’s thoughts creating a negative self- image. God instructs us in Proverbs 15:1 that “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”  Our God tells us there is a definite difference in the way others respond to soft and harsh words.  Soft words turn away wrath and harsh words stir up anger.  WOW!!!!
Just as words can tear down a person, words can build a person up.  God tells us in Proverbs 16:24 “Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.”  He encourages us to choose our words wisely and to use them to build each up.  We are to use words that help someone want to be a better Christian, stay clean and sober, perform better in a race, score higher on a test, be a better spouse, and teach our children that they are worthy of love and affection.  The words we use can bring healing to soul and body.  Something as simple as the words we choose can help a person heal both emotionally and physically.

Sticks and Stones can break bones.  Broken bones hurt and typically leave visible wounds. Usually time will allow the body to repair and the visible brokenness disappears. Contrary to the poem, words DO hurt and cause internal wounds which cannot be seen.  Healing from these internal wounds, internal brokenness, feelings of unworthiness, feelings of being unlovable and shattered self-esteem is sometimes very difficult.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” cannot be further from the truth.  Words Matter.  My prayer for each of us is that we take a moment and reflect on the message we want to convey and the words we choose to convey it.

May God Bless each of you and may your words be ones of encouragement and love.

Blessings,
Terri

 

Dear Stress let’s break up

 

Strengthening our spiritual self will aid in producing strength, wisdom, knowledge and judgement needed in relation to stress and anxiety.

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.  1 Thessalonians 5:18

Stress and anxiety are at the center of so many of our lives these days. The combination of a fast-paced competitive society, our own internal struggles and fears, and the challenges presented by the economy, our families, our jobs, and day-to-day life leaves us feeling overwhelmed and on edge.

Anxiety is a reaction to stress.  Whether in good times or bad, most people say that stress interferes at least moderately with their lives. Chronic stress can affect your health, causing symptoms from headaches, high blood pressure, and chest pain to heart palpitations, skin rashes, and loss of sleep.

In the fast-paced culture we live in it can be easy to become discouraged.  Take heart there is HOPE!   God tells us that we should call onHim in our times of trouble.  Not only does He promise He hears us but he promises to answer us.  What do you do when you are in trouble? Do you worry? Do you complain? Do you take it out on others?  

Or do you pray? Psalm 120 shows us the best way. When in trouble, pray.  And the reason why is simple and yet at the same time so remarkable. God hears you when you pray. That’s what the psalmist says in verse 1: “I call on the Lord in my distress, and he answers me.”  That is astonishing. When you pray, the God who created all things, the God who is bigger than the universe, hears you. He pays attention to you. He hears your every word. Never take that for granted. God hears you when you pray.  Through Christ’s death and resurrection we are assured of salvation-our ultimate HOPE. Our founded HOPE.  Our Eternal Hope.

THERE IS HOPE

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear or timidity, but of power and self-discipline.” 2 Timothy 1:7

Strengthening our Spiritual self is essential when working to strengthen ones physical, emotional and mental healing. Strengthening our Spiritual self will aid in producing the strength, wisdom, knowledge and judgment needed in relation to stress and anxiety challenges.

We better manage our stress when we distinguish what we can control and what we can’t.  We all have a normal stress zone in which we function quite well.  Everyone’s zone is different.  Each of us has learned to cope within our normal stress zone.  When factors happen that push outside of our normal stress zone that’s when anxiety can happen. When this happens we need tools to feel more in control to our body’s response to stress.   “For God has not given us a spirit of fear or timidity, but of power and self-discipline.”  2 Timothy 1:7

Where do we start our journey of  “breaking up” with stress and anxiety?  First, we tend to our Spiritual needs.  We take time to pray and meditate, we spend time in His word, and we reach out to fellow Christians for love and support.   We make it a priority to have a physical health check-up and tend to our emotional and mental health.  In addition we make sure that we make time for self-care, set healthy boundaries and make time to do things that bring relaxation. Today is your day to start your journey to a life that is less stressful and more peace filled.

Blessings my friends,

Terri